A lot of modern “self-help” tells us that the secret to life is to always be happy. When
doubts, fears, and frustration come push them aside and replace them with feelings of
contentment and happiness. We are NEVER to allow these emotions to take root in our
mind. That doing so would only create more feelings of unease and discontentment. So instead of dealing with these emotions and past traumas, we pay money to be “taught” how to suppress and bury them deep down within us. But eventually the things we worked so diligently to bury,surface and we are left feeling broken and alone. Then we label ourselves a failure because we weren’t able to do what these writers made seem oh so easy.
But success, at least in my opinion, comes not in how many books we read on “healing”, but how often we make the decision to continue after failure or heartbreak. It comes not in dwelling on our hurt but allowing our self to process it and move on. In examining all the aspects of our life. Even, the not so pleasant ones because there in lies the lessons. The moments where we learn who we are, and what we want. The things we will settle for and the things that we will not allow in our life. It’s only when we face and wrestle with our darkness, those inner daemons that make us doubt our self late at night, do we truly know our light, our power, and strength.
So feel your hurt and anger. Make friends with your sadness, and grief. Honor and bless those feelings. They are a part of you. Sadness does not mean you are a failure. Depression does not mean you are weak. Reach for help if you need it. A therapist, family member or friend. In whatever way you can begin the journey of letting go and starting over.
I think there is a lot to be said for having persistence in life. Sometimes things don’t go our way. We will be let down and disappointed. The only answer we can see in front of us is to give up. So if that’s where you find yourself today, I want to encourage you to do just that. Give up. Take a break and disconnect for a while if you can. But don’t quit. Dealing with our pain allows us to walk with a lighter load. Lay down your burdens and move on. Step into freedom and forgive. Forgive others. And forgive yourself.
"This is dedicated to every human being who looks differnt, feels different, and thinks differently.