A lot of modern “self-help” tells us that the secret to life is to always be happy. When
doubts, fears, and frustration come push them aside and replace them with feelings of
contentment and happiness. We are NEVER to allow these emotions to take root in our
mind. That doing so would only create more feelings of unease and discontentment. So instead of dealing with these emotions and past traumas, we pay money to be “taught” how to suppress and bury them deep down within us. But eventually the things we worked so diligently to bury,surface and we are left feeling broken and alone. Then we label ourselves a failure because we weren’t able to do what these writers made seem oh so easy.
But success, at least in my opinion, comes not in how many books we read on “healing”, but how often we make the decision to continue after failure or heartbreak. It comes not in dwelling on our hurt but allowing our self to process it and move on. In examining all the aspects of our life. Even, the not so pleasant ones because there in lies the lessons. The moments where we learn who we are, and what we want. The things we will settle for and the things that we will not allow in our life. It’s only when we face and wrestle with our darkness, those inner daemons that make us doubt our self late at night, do we truly know our light, our power, and strength.
So feel your hurt and anger. Make friends with your sadness, and grief. Honor and bless those feelings. They are a part of you. Sadness does not mean you are a failure. Depression does not mean you are weak. Reach for help if you need it. A therapist, family member or friend. In whatever way you can begin the journey of letting go and starting over.
I think there is a lot to be said for having persistence in life. Sometimes things don’t go our way. We will be let down and disappointed. The only answer we can see in front of us is to give up. So if that’s where you find yourself today, I want to encourage you to do just that. Give up. Take a break and disconnect for a while if you can. But don’t quit. Dealing with our pain allows us to walk with a lighter load. Lay down your burdens and move on. Step into freedom and forgive. Forgive others. And forgive yourself.
January 1st 2019 1:10am
Its time, time to be the king of my own destiny, and im FINALLY ready.
Time to love myself, for the beautiful wonderful mess that I am!
Ready to celebrate and cherish the moments. To go after what I want without any guarentees. To leave behind the things that are wrong for me.
Ready to forgive.
Ready to face all of lifes unexpected twists. And to let go when it is too painful to hold on. Ready to turn the page.
2019...I AM READY...let's do this!!!
Who's ready with me?!
Usually around this time, at the close of a year looking toward the start of a new one I start to reflect and look forward.
Reflect on the year that has gone by and look forward to the year ahead.
I ask myself all sorts of questions...
What were my biggest lessons in the year now over?
Who were my biggest teacher?
Where did I fall short?
What were my proudest moments?
And what would I like to see happen in the year ahead?
Finally I make my list of "New Year Resolutions".
And like everyone else I have all but given them up by the first rain of Spring.
So this year I thought I would try something different.
Instead of making a list of resolutions for 2019, I have made a list of intentions.
I share my list with you...
In 2019 I will...
-allow myself and my art to be seen.
-trust my gut, my authenticity.
-keep my hear open.
-be unapologetically me.
-monitor my thought patterns and make a greater effort to steer myself away from negative self talk and useless worrying.
-take steps to get outside my comfort zone and try things that scare me.
-challenge myself as an artist.
-see myself and my mind, body, and soul through the eyes of love honor and acceptance instead of judgement and condemnation.
-create and stick to a morning routine.
Comment down below and share some of your New Year 2019 intentions!
Spot on definitions of Creativity and Career by Amy Poehler excerpted from her book Yes, Please.
"Creativity is connected to your passion, that light inside you that drives you. That joy that comes when you do something you love. That small voice that tells you, ‘I like this. Do this again. You are good at it. Keep going.’ That is the juicy stuff that lubricates our lives and helps us feel less alone in the world. Your creativity is not a bad boyfriend. It is a really warm older Hispanic lady who has a beautiful laugh and loves to hug. Career is different. Career is the stringing together of opportunities and jobs. Mix in public opinion and past regrets. Add a dash of future panic and a whole lot of financial uncertainty. Career is something that fools you into thinking you are in control and then takes pleasure in reminding you that you aren’t.
Depending on your career is like eating cake for breakfast and wondering why you start crying an hour later"
Join me each week as I "re-air" episodes of "That's a Wrap" counting down to brand new episodes set to debut in January of 2019!
To start, lets go back to the very beginning!
For you viewing pleasure I present the VERY FIRST episode of "That's a Wrap"!
The quote below is from one of my favorite Christmas movies, the stop-motion special, "Santa Claus is Coming to Town." (1970)
It comes at the very end of the movie where the Narrator, voiced by Fred Astaire, is commenting on the commercialization of Christmas and how the Christmas Holiday seems to have lost its meaning with most people finding it as a burden rather than a joyous time of love and forgiveness.
"Poor, misguided folks. They missed the whole point. Lot's of unhappiness? Maybe so. But doesn't Santa take a little bit of that unhappiness away? Doesn't a smile on Christmas morning scratch out a tear cried on a sadder day? Not much maybe. But what would happen if we all tried to be like Santa and learned to give as only he can give: of ourselves, our talents, our love and our hearts? Maybe we could all learn Santa's beautiful lesson and maybe there would finally be peace on Earth and good will toward men."
Wherever you find yourself on your journey this holiday season I hope that you take a moment to surrender your fears for one special moment get in touch with the greatest love of all...Jesus Christ...the child born in a manger on that Holy Christmas Night. Find that place in your heart where the love of Christ abides,a love without bias or judgement, and take some time to share that love with others and most importantly…yourself!
May this New Year bring you closer to all your WISHES and DREAMS!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
This Month I am begining a new series of blogs posts called "Music Monday's" Each Monday untill January 7th I will be posting the lyrics and audio of a song that has touched my heart or inpacted me in some way. These songs have given me encouragment and lifted me up in some of my darkest days. I share them with the hope that they will do the same for you!
Brand New Me
It's been a while, I'm not who I was before
You look surprised, your words don't burn me anymore
Been meaning to tell you, but I guess it's clear to see
Don't be mad, it's just the brand new kind of me
Can't be bad, I found a brand new kind of free
Careful with your ego, he's the one that we should blame
Had to grab my heart back
God know something had to change
I thought that you'd be happy
I found the one thing I need, why you mad
It's just the brand new kind of me
It took a long long time to get here
It took a brave, brave girl to try
It took one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don't be surprised, don't be surprised
if i talk a little louder
If I speak up when you're wrong
If I walk a little taller
I've be under you too long
If you noticed that I'm different
Don't take it personally
Don't be mad, it's just the brand new kind of me
And it ain't bad, I found a brand new kind of free
Oh, it took a long long road to get here
It took a brave brave girl to try
I've taken one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don't be surprised, oh see you look surprised
Hey, if you were a friend, you want to get know me again
If you were worth a while
You'd be happy to see me smile
I'm not expecting sorry
I'm too busy finding myself
I got this
I found me, I found me, yeah
I don't need your opinion
I'm not waiting for your okay
I'll never be perfect, but at least now I'm brave
Now, my heart is open
And I can finally breathe
Don't be mad, it's just the brand new kind of free
That ain't bad, I found a brand new kind of me
Don't be mad, it's just a brand new time for me
Songwriters: Neal Brian Conway / Crystal Waters / Alicia Keys / Emeli Sande
"This is dedicated to every human being who looks differnt, feels different, and thinks differently.