" Sometimes it feels like there are so many things in this world we can't control. Earthquakes, floods, reality shows... But it's important to remember the things we can. Like forgiveness, second chances, fresh starts... Because the one thing that turns the world from a longing place into a beautiful place... Is love ,love in any of its forms. Love gives us hope.. Hope for the new year. That's what New Year's Eve is to me.
So before we pop the champagne and celebrate the New Year, let us stop and reflect on the year that has gone by. To remember both are triumphs and are missteps. Our promises made and broken. The times we opened our selfs up to great adventures... Or closed our self down for fear of getting hurt, because that's what New Years is all about. Getting another chance. A chance to forgive. To do better. To do more. To give more. To love more. To stop worrying about what is... And start embracing what will be. So when that ball drops at midnight, and it will drop, let's remember to be nice to each other kind to each other, not just tonight but all year long."
New Years Eve (2011) Directed by Garry Marshall
We've seen this scene many times before. Usually it’s at the end of a movie when the "bad guy or girl" realizes the error of their ways. There’s lots of hugging and crying, apologies are said and all is forgiven. In some ways I think this is what we have been conditioned to believe forgiveness is.
In order for the act of forgiveness to take place we must wait. We must wait on the other person to come to us and set us free from our pain and hurt. Only if they say the words “Im sorry” then can we move on...
If you decide to play this waiting game, if you decide to give someone that kind of power over your live, you might be waiting for a very long time.
Forgiveness is an act we do for ourselves and not the other person.
By forgiving we let go of the negative energy and come back to that which is our true being.
You can forgive someone and never ever want to see them again. I used to think that if I forgave someone who caused me a great deal of pain that meant that I must allow them to be a part of my life again. But as I’ve gotten older I know that is not always a necessity.
Forgivingness is a cleansing ritual we do for ourselves that releases the hurt and anger
By forgiving you are saying…
"I refuse to let your words or actions condemn and cage me.
I am free!
I move on”
You and ONLY you hold the key to break the shell of resentment and fly free.
And its is scary as hell!
Anyone can take off their clothes, but vunerability, true vunerabilty that comes from letting down the walls, you might have spent years building takes such courage.
Weve all been hurt in the past by a romantic partner, chances are we might get hurt again, but the true heros, the truly courages people are the ones who get up, dust themselves off an try again.
I don't want to make it sound like this is something that happens overnight, because I know and so do you if you've ever had your heart broken it can take time, serious time. Weeks, months or even sometimes years. But evetunally the dust does settle. You begin to realize that although you didn't find the ever after you were looking for, it still might be out there. You just have to keep searching.
I think in the end it all comes down to faith. Faith is the feeling that gets us up every moring. It is the voice in our head that says...
"Maybe today's the day!"
Each and every day that we choose to get out of that bed and show up for our lives, no matter what circumstances we are going through, we are saying to the universe...
"Here I am! Teach me!"
Courage it takes such courage!
Sometimes the things we will learn along our life journey wont always the most pleasant. But each lesson, no matter how difficult, is a necessary step we must take in order to become the person we were meant to be.
So to those of you who make the choice to try again...
You are true hero's...
Who is God?
That is a question that has been debated about for centuries. So much blood has been spilt over "God" and whos definition of him is correct. So much so that the very essence of God seems to have been forgotten.
Love, the thing that is the cornerstone of every great religion has taken a backseat and the focus seems to have shifted onto making others believe and feel as we do.
And my feeling about all this is...is it really that import?
I left organized relgion and began a spiritual journey because my soul had a deep dersire, a yearning , to return to the true essence of the Creator,
From LOVE we have come and to LOVE we will go.
But so many people don't believe in God or don't believe in anthing really and I think that is a great shame.
A lot of us, myself included have grown up with a certain image of God and who he is supposed to be.
I was first introduced to God in Sunday School. God is a man sitting high up on a cloud, who yes loves us, but who is ready to smite us to an eternity of hellfire and damnation if we as so much dare to be the very people he created us to be...Imperfectly Perfect HUMANS!
Not only is this version of God, in my opinion, untrue, but it also makes for a very unfair and limiting ecperience of our creator.
Many people have told me that they have a hard time believing in a God that they can not see. While yes its true, I've never seen a man with a beard clad all in while living high up on a cloud, I experience and see the Divine in other ways.
To me God is not a him and God is not a her.
God is also no separate for us.
God is the divine force within us.
The times when I experience this divine God force most clearly are when I manage to slow down and actually look for it.
I breathe in for a second and open my eyes....God is always there!
In the gentle breeze on a fall afternoon or in a snowfall on a winter starlight night.
God is the voice in my head that tells me I am not alone.
Life gets crazy and hectic.
Tragedy and heartbreak sometimes happen.
But God is there.
God dwells within me as me.
The Divine is part of us and we are part of the Divine.
This I know for sure.
"This is dedicated to every human being who looks differnt, feels different, and thinks differently.