Anyone out there how finds themselves grieving tonight.
Know that you are not alone.
I feel your pain.
The world feels your pain.
You are not alone!
You will make it through this.
My prayer for you:
"When great souls die,
after a period peace blooms,
slowly and always irregularly.
Spaces fill with a kind of
soothing electric vibration.
Our senses, restored, never to be the same, whisper to us.
They existed. They existed.
We can be.
Be and be better.
For they existed."
Fear is a part of life.
A lot of "self help" books say the same thing when it comes to this subject and it goes something like this...
" You must eliminate fear from your life and life a live of love and courage"
I am here to tell you that eliminating fear from your life is not only foolish it is IMPOSSIBLE.
Fear is a part of life.
Some fear is good.
Yes, some fear is even necessary.
We need fear to survive.
Fear is the voice in our head that helps us distinguish between foolish choices and wise ones..
Fear is the voice that says, "I shouldn't go down that dark alley" or "I should put down the cell phone and concentrate on driving"
That is the good type of fear.
We need it in our lives but we do not need to let it control our lives!
Especially when it comes to our dreams.
So don't be afraid of fear. The more we try to push it aside the more it will creep up on us. So, instead of wasting time trying to eliminate it, love it.
Love fear as a natural part of the human experience and welcome it into your life.
Acknowledge your fears.
Have a dialogue with them.
But refuse to let them drive you!
Here is a great speech for welcoming fear into your life by Elizabeth Gilbert. These are some great words to say before embarking on a big adventure:
"Dearest Fear, Creativity and I are about to go on a road trip together. I understand you'll be joining us, because you always do. Apparently your job is to induce panic whenever I'm about to do anything interesting – and, may I say, you are superb at your job. But understand this: Creativity and I are the only ones who will be making any decisions along the way. I recognise and respect that you are part of this family, and so I will never exclude you from our activities, but your suggestions will never be followed. You're allowed to have a seat, and you're allowed to have a voice, but you are not allowed to have a vote. You're not allowed to touch the road maps or suggest detours; you're not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you're not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, you are absolutely forbidden to drive."
Don't Give Up!
By now I'm sure you've noticed its something of a common theme here at Breaking The Shell.
Don't Give Up.
Quit if you must.
There's no shame in it
Quit for a day, a few days, a week but don't give up.
You best days are right in front of you.
Your loudest laugh
Your dream job
The perfect partner.
"If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit."
We all get tired.
We all face moments in our life where the struggle, whatever it is, become almost unbearable.
We want to quit.
We want to leave.
We want to disappear.
We want to disappear into the woods and become a hermit.
We want to give up!
When, or if you find yourself faced or facing a moment like that, I urge you to be gentle with yourself.
Take a deep breath.
You are not alone.
We all go through moments when we feel like giving up.
Take a moment and detach from the situation, whatever it may be.
A personal relationship, your finances, living situation, career, whatever it is.
Take a moment and detach and breath.
Go outside and enjoy nature.
Treat yourself to a nice dinner alone.
Spend a weekend away.
Go see a movie or play.
It you give yourself a moment to collect yourself and relax chances are that when you go back to the situation that is exhausting you, you will be able to see it free of distractions and with a fresh pair of eyes.
Whatever is stressing you today...don't give up!
You not alone!
Nothing last forever.
So allow yourself to take a break.
Give up if you have to. Give up for a day or two.
Rest your mind.
Rest your body.
Rest your soul.
You can do this!
You are not alone!!!
Some wise words about Personal Freedom from Mastin Kipp...
Free to love. Free to create. Free to build. Free to thrive. The pulse of freedom beats the heart of humanity and is something that we all intuitively know is our birthright.
Yet, many in this world are not free. You don't have to be a prisoner to have freedom taken away.
If we're honest - many people like you and me are not free.
We "think" we're free. But we're not.
We're run by Survival Patterns (irrational fears) that want us to stay safe. And in the process of staying safe, we squander our freedom.
Webster's defines freedom as "the absence of constraint of choice".
Meaning, we can make any choice we want.
And while we believe that we have this - the truth is, we limit the kinds of choices that we allow ourselves to make.
We tend to make choices that limit us.
The choice to stay small. Stay quite. Not speak up. Not shine. Not stand out. To fit in. The not disturb the status quo. The delay our dreams. To procrastinate. To never get started. To think we need the approval of someone else before we get started.
We are the ones who get in the way of our ability to choose.
What's true is that you could choose in any moment to be free. To leave the relationship. To say I love you. To start the business. The blog. To get married. To have children. To get divorced. To lose the weight.
But, until we become aware of our unconscious survival programming, we will only have the illusion of free will and choice. Why? Because we are allowing ourselves to be run by our irrational fears.
The founding fathers of the United States, when they signed the Declaration of Independence became immediate traitors in the eyes of the British. This was punishable by death.
Our founding fathers were willing to put their life on the line for the dream of America. For freedom. For life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
They no longer desired to simply exist under the rule of an oppressive regime, the bravely chose to fight for their freedom - and has they lost that battle; they would have also lost their lives.
Today, rare is the person who makes the courageous choice to put their life as they know it on the line and pursue something greater.
Many stay in a self-made prison of comfort, limiting beliefs and survival patterns.
Today, as I reflect on the courageous choice our founding father made to form this Union, I wonder about us.
Are we living our lives in a way that would honor their sacrifice? And not just their sacrifice, but the sacrifice of every man, woman, and child who has given their life for this country.
We owe it to those that we've lost, those that put their life on the line and those who faced death to create this country to commit our lives to the pursuit and fulfillment of our potential.
Anything less than that pursuit means we will be trapped by the oppressive regime of irrational fear within our own minds.
So, how do you get free?
Be a traitor to your fears.
Be a traitor to your limiting beliefs. Be a traitor to the BS story you tell yourself about why you can't have what you want.
Make your life an experiment in personal freedom. Specialize in making the courageous choice.
Honor this life that you've been given. Honor those who have come before you and sacrificed so that you could have the opportunity to pursue your happiness and fulfill your potential.
You owe it to them, you owe it to yourself, you owe it to those that you love, and you owe it to your Creator.
It's time to make the courageous choice.
Several weeks ago I had the privilege of seeing the Phantom of the Opera national tour at Playhouse Square in Cleveland. I had seen the show several times previously in New York City but this production erased any memories of those other times.
Chris Mann, the actor who played the Phantom, was someone I had never heard of before seeing this production. By the end of the show I was a new fan. He is the best, most believable actor I have ever seen in the role by far. This time,thanks to Mr. Mann the Phantom was a real person not just a showcase for a opera singer.
In addition to being a great actor, Chris Mann is a very accomplished singer, having competed on The Voice several seasons ago.
There is a track on is record "Constellations" called Comeback. It touched my heart as it will anyone who has ever been underestimated.
Click here for more information of Chris Mann
Lyrics are below
Never thought it would be easy
But I sure I could win
Always knew when I fell down
Wasn't to far to get back up again
People always try to tell me
It was the end of the road
But who were they to tell me
Just how far I was gonna go?
Said I was down but I never was out
You don't know what I'm planning
You got no idea
I'll be the last man standing
After the knockouts disappear
When I finally get there
Right on top where I belong
Did I come outta nowhere?
No I been right here all along
Said I was down but I never was out
All the hell that I been through
I'm wearing bruises like tattoos
Sometimes you're gonna win
Sometimes you're gonna lose
So you better hold on tight
Cause I'm ready for this fight
Don't you know what a comeback looks like?
Gotta get up gotta make a comeback (I'm gonna pick myself up again)
Gotta get up gotta make a comeback!
"This is dedicated to every human being who looks differnt, feels different, and thinks differently.